Last week, I introduced the ideas of empowerment and enforcement.
The pyscho-spiritual teachings of Dr. David R. Hawkins, author of Power vs. Force, was one of my most influential teachers. I started studying his teaching in 2005. Between 2006 and 2010 I had the pleasure and honor of attending around 14 or so all-day lectures and other events and learned so much about psycho-spiritual development, spiritual emergencies, and the dynamics of the human spirit from this brilliant and loving being. His teaching and advice helped me deeply engage in my self-inquiry and begin to purify my devotional practices.
Dr. Hawkins Map of Consciousness is a guidepost for assessing if you are experiencing a state of power or force. He delineates force as states of Pride, Anger, Desire, Fear, Grief, Apathy, Guilt, and Shame. States of power are considered: Courage, Neutrality, Willingness, Acceptance, Reason, Love, and beyond.
I wish I could say that every decision I made since studying and practicing were made from states of power, but alas, they were not, and could not have been. The profound journey of self-inquiry never ends and as we practice, we find hidden guilt, shame, and strong unmet needs. Until they are all brought to the light of the conscious mind, we will continue to make decisions rooted in states of force. Self-Inquiry is not an easy path and is not completed in one lifetime. It requires a fearless examination of our defense and protective mechanisms and a willingness to stop projecting them onto others and the world.
Practitioners of inquiry eventually develop the willingness to find compassion and forgiveness for the parts of themselves that made decisions that inevitably led to suffering. As we cultivate this for ourselves, we can share more genuine compassion with others.
As I continue the spiritual practice of becoming aware of and loving my ego back into wholeness, I still on occasion become aware of when I am dishonest by acting in ways others might want or expect, betraying my own needs to gain the approval of those I love or hide when I feel threatened. We all have conditioned behavioral and mental patterns that get triggered.
These patterns are the way we attempted to be powerful by using force. We had mistakenly believed these forceful ways of controlling ourselves and others were the most powerful way we could solve our problems.
But ultimately, in the long run, these forceful ways of trying to get our needs met create more discord, pain, suffering, and loss.
Sometimes I notice myself speaking from the pride of my position or beliefs instead of reason, wisdom, or love. When I recognize this or any other disempowering pattern, I realize an old pattern has been triggered, that is all. Giving that part of myself love, I remind myself that I am learning, growing, and evolving being. Ever learning how to be more powerful in ways that create a more peaceful and productive existence.
This is how I strengthen trusting the me that is learning, growing, and evolving over any old survival pattern. I offer this practice to you in hope that it will help you become a more sovereign, Self-Referred being as opposed to a fearfully triggered and Other-Referred being.
If you want to be a sovereign being, look at what twists your mind and emotions into a knot.
Are you in a frenzied state, excited fearful state? A hopeless, helpless, victim state? A righteous prideful state?
Having a weapon, be it our mouths, our guns, or posting memes on social media to respond to someone else’s meme without actually having a respectful, information seeking conversation about the topic is not the answer for solving the growth challenges that face us as a nation or in our personal relationships.
What makes us sovereign beings is to surrender our positionality about a subject, even for a moment to ask for more information to seek understanding and to find solutions that do not create even more unintended negative consequences.
Being sovereign means, we have control over our own thinking and our own choices instead of being emotionally manipulated by our own fears.
Being sovereign takes courage to face how we have allowed ourselves to be manipulated because we are trying to be important, safe, or right, or are trying to get our needs met or to be significant.
When a need overrides our ability to listen and see deeply, we know we are in the process of being manipulated by our unconscious mind, be it individual or collective.
To start with, when you experience an emergency emotion or a defensive thought, Stop – Pause – Breathe – Be willing to know the truth no matter what the truth is. Ask for more information. Ask for support.
For me, the most important spiritual practice is to want to know the truth no matter what it is. To be willing to be wrong. I think this is the greatest takeaway from Dr. Hawkin's teachings for me and I offer it to you for your own contemplation.
All My Love,
PS. If you are interested in learning how to be more powerful, I hope you will explore the works of Dr. Hawkins at www.veritaspub.com. I recommend three books to get started, Power vs. Force, Transcending the Levels of Consciousness, and The Discovery of the Presence of God.
One of the biggest problems for children and teenagers of any age in the face of traumatic events will center on how they deal with their sense of fear and helplessness. The worst danger isn’t that children experience fear. The worst danger comes when fear is not recognized and accepted by a safe and secure caregiver. A child’s sense of fear, when it is unattended to by a caregiver, moves in the direction of terror. The child’s sense of helplessness, when unshared and unregulated by the caregiver moves in the direction of despair.
Unregulated fear and unregulated helplessness become overwhelming for children primarily because they don’t feel like they can be shared with someone who can take a protective and kind role in their lives. One major goal for families to consider in the time of crisis and disaster is for caregivers to develop a sense of clear direction and sound encouragement in offering themselves as a resource for the management of fear and powerlessness. Attachment research fully supports how valuable parents are in circumstances where it may appear that they themselves are without usefulness and value.
An important thing for parents to remember that in a time of crisis they don't need to have all the answers, they need to be a source of comfort for their children. More than anyone else during a time of disaster, a child’s primary caregivers are the center of that child’s world and are the resource that can make all the difference.
Offering predictable daily routines that a child can count on becomes a valuable resource, especially when these routines are sponsored by a trusted caregiver. Help children find examples of specific things, events, and people for which to be grateful for in the midst of great difficulty. Gratitude can be the one thing that helps a family focus on solutions during a crisis.
During a time of crisis, children will be looking for the following capacities in their primary caregivers:
All my love in this time of crisis,
March 22, 2020
IThis last week's podcast was a live call in show. Because the callers do not give written consent to have their information rebroadcast on YouTube to a potentially broader audience, I will not be making YouTube videos. I will instead be blogging about the topics discussed on the show and include the resources I listed in the podcasts in case you missed the show and are interested in the topic.
This week a caller talked about hearing voices and the somatic awareness of energy leaving her body every time she needed to modify her behavior with other people. She is diagnosed with schizophrenia and a host of other disorders.
The basic definition of Schizophrenia (via Wikipedia) is: a mental illness characterized by relapsing episodes of psychosis. Major symptoms include hallucinations often hearing voices and delusions (having beliefs not shared by others). Other symptoms include disordered thinking, social withdrawal, decreased emotional expression, and lack of motivation. Symptoms typically come on gradually, begin in young adulthood, and in many cases never resolve. There is no objective diagnostic test; diagnosis is based on observed behavior, a history that includes the person's reported experiences, and reports of others familiar with the person. To be diagnosed with schizophrenia, symptoms and functional impairment need to be present for six months. Many people with schizophrenia have other mental disorders that may include an anxiety disorder such as panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, depressive disorder, or a substance use disorder.
After talking to this woman, it was apparent she had many of these symptoms. But as I continued visiting with her, she revealed more interesting experiences and sentiments that makes you question a lifelong prison sentence that these types of diagnoses create.
This woman expressed a desire to help people, while having difficulty even interviewing for jobs because her energy sensitivities increase when being in public, she expressed wanting a dream job helping people with her gifts of vision.
Having been dismissed as mentally ill with no other investigation as to what skills or gifts this person had and how they might be developed for their own and other's benefit, the self-esteem and self-image of this person were certainly low and underdeveloped. Instead of having a family member, friend, or mental health professional care enough to ask her what the voices where wanting to say and helping her cultivate the mental strength to work through some of the issues the voices brought forth, the potential for her psycho-spiritual development during her teenage and early adult years was delayed. I sincerely hope she contact the resources I gave her in the show. All is not lost, she may begin to work on strengthening her mind and find the support to find meaningful work and relationships.
She was never given the opportunity to work on healing and mastering the uncomfortable energy sensitivities preventing her from engaging in public as she would like.
She has visions, hears voices that offer uplifting and helpful advice, has a strong desire to be of service to prevent the suffering of others, receives helpful information from the visions and voices that helps her feel better and make healthier choices as opposed to the potentially co-dependent behavior she had been engaging in prior to hearing the voice or feeling the energy drain from her body. These experiences sound exactly like the experiences that so many mediums, spirit healers, shamans, and near-death experiences report. Many of the challenges she experiences are the same as well.
There is a great opportunity for psycho-spiritual development and a fulfilling life, even with the most difficult of challenges experienced by this woman.
It's very possible she might have been spared years of suffering had she been referred to the right educational and supportive resources and help.
Hearing voices doesn't have to mean people necessarily have a mental health diagnosis. It could mean they are a medium, shaman, or healer. A person could be trained how to master the communication and even become a psychotherapist that uses after death communication in grief therapy. Believe it or not, there ARE psychotherapists who provide this service. The Brazilian mental health program has recognized over half the people in their mental hospitals are mediums and psychic. Once they are identified and trained, they return to normal lives.
If you or someone you know hears voices and needs support you can contact The Hearing Voices Network, or The American Spiritist Society. Listen to Elanor Longden talk about her experience with hearing voices and her journey to healing in this Ted Talk.
You can find therapists certified by the American Center for the Integration of Spiritually Transformative Experiences www.aciste.org that have been trained to work with people who have had these types of experiences that will not pathologize them and help people be with and work through the material coming up in the experiences and challenges, while still providing access to medications as they are needed.
If you are a mental health professional, or are a mental health client and would like to educate your mental health professional about these issues, you may want to download ACISTE's Competency Guideline for Professionals and give it to your therapist.
This is a complex topic that requires a thorough examination of body, soul, and spirit to discover what developmental tasks, and any psychological and physical needs may arising for the individual. When we pathologize and dismiss people with these types of experiences, we are devaluing their life, their very existence. We become part of a system that perpetuates illness and disease instead of supporting healing and wholeness.
We could instead be courageous enough to look at these experiences from a perspective that allows for an expanded examination of the possibilities for health and well being. So often we try to silence symptoms without truly examining the source. Hippocrates said we must look at the whole person, even to examine their dreams to thoroughly treat a patient. It seems that the modern mental health system has forgotten the whole person. Material reductionist theory has taken over our mental health system and turned us all into simple machines made of neuropeptides, hormones, and neurotransmitters. If it were only that simple. If your mental health professional won't work with you as a whole person, there are those out there that will, and their numbers are growing. I am certainly not anti-medication when it is helpful, but the question is first, are we medicating people with harmful antipsychotics without examining the internal cause for any apparent dysfunction? Are these people even dysfunctional? Can they be trained to master these voices and integrate them into their own personality development or use them to serve others?
I have talked to people all over the world who were medicated for depression without ever having been asked by their psychiatrist, "Why do you think you are depressed?" I cannot tell you how angry this makes me. How is it possible for someone to go through years of medical school and to become so trained out of the fact they are working with a living, breathing soul who has emotional needs?
I am glad to see the tides changing. But there is still SO much more work to do to get the word out there to people who suffer that there may be alternative medication and there are other ways to work with these experiences.
All My Love,
Growing up, I never could understand the concept of grace. I didn't understand what I was supposed to feel if I were in a state of grace. It was such an ephemeral concept and I just couldn't wrap my head around it. I was in my early 40's when I finally understood.
I learned about grace in the worst of times. It was during a time when I was afraid of losing everything that was important to me. My relationship with my children, house, and my money. It was a very scary time.
It was August 8, 2008. 8-8-8. I was driving to Albuquerque when my angel said, "You can no longer live by readings, its time for you to live by grace." I must tell you, I freaked. Being highly intuitive my whole life I read the energies around me. I could read them 6 months to two years in advance to know what was coming, but during this time, I couldn't feel a thing. It was as if someone turned off my antenna.
For two weeks I couldn't feel a thing. And, I sure didn't understand grace. I took a walk in the park to clear my head one particularly hard day and told God, "You are going to have to show me what grace is because I don't understand what you are talking about!" The next thing I knew I had a mystical experience right there in the park. God showed me a clear tube surrounding me that went into the ground about a foot or so and went up into the sky as far as I could see. God said, "Bring your children, house, and bank account to me," and directed me to the center of my chest. God was with me, in me, all around me. The Presence was was so strong that as I brought all those things into my center and gave them to the Light, one by one, they were taken up.
My heart and mind were no longer racing. There was a sense of peace and tranquility I had only known a few times prior to this. A deep, abiding peace filled my entire being. I finished my walk and faced what needed to be faced. The emotional and mental strength and courage I needed to have a difficult conversation with my ex-husband arose out of nowhere, so I had the conversation, and waited.
Within a few days the issue was resolved.
I had to have the courage to accept grace and in return, I was gifted with more courage.
There are times in our life where all the grace in the world cannot change a circumstance. It is in the darkest of times when the change we want is not possible, these are the times we need to accept grace the most. It has been my experience that whenever I make a request of the light, the call is answered in some way. Asking for grace is asking for an experience of Divine Presence. Not knowing the outcome that Divine Presence will bring, is the biggest hurdle. When we are in pain or fear, it is hard to trust something as ephemeral as grace. But you will never know if you don't ask to know.
To all my friends who may be facing dark and painful times, I pray grace for you, and will hold a space for you to receive the courage that grace brings.
All My Love,
The apparent apocalyptic geologic events, rising sea levels, fires, and political troubles, all have us feeling overwhelmed. It is easy in the face of such drastic change to feel overwhelmed, shut down, or even quit trying to make any kind of impact. The feeling of helplessness seems to be escalating all around us. As an intuitive and sensitive, I literally feel it all around me.
to The Great Shift, everyone has been waiting for it since before 2012 and ever since then, we have been waiting for it some more. It has finally arrived in 2020 and it is really kicking our individual and collective butts. There is a good reason for it too. It has become pretty obvious that the great unveiling of light doesn't always feel so light and fluffy. Most of the time it does, but when it doesn't, man, it's like running full force into a brick wall you didn't see coming. Many of us that have been talking about this for years have said, "Hey folks, its not all rainbows and butterflies." STOP spiritually bypassing your inner suffering. Stop bypassing or repressing your fears. The time to put our spiritual head in the sand is over and its time to start doing your inner work. Even if you have done your inner work, you may still be facing this time of transition with a sense of love, wonder and excitement, accentuated by moments of intense panic, fear, or grief.
We are all being asked to step into a new life. A life beyond our old past life or even this life traumas. We are being called to MOVE ON from the old control dramas and MOVE INTO the new exanded experiences calling to us. I personally have resisted this call like the plague because I could feel the magnitude of it, without seeing the details of the personal changes I could feel coming. It has been like walking blind folded, with PTSD.
I found the key to this forward movement. I gave myself permission to decide what is important to me. To get very clear about what I want to do and then have the courage to make the plans. Sometimes those plans may not make sense to others, but I can't let them go. There is a voice inside of me that wants so badly to be expressed. There is a love inside of me that wants to radiate. But I have been in fear. I would start a project and then stop. I just couldn't figure out what was preventing me from being consistent about things that were so important until I felt deeply enough into the experience of it. There was a deep fear of being exposed and the fear I would be killed, or fail and have to sell everything I own to survive. The old past life experiences came back to haunt me like nothing had before. We are in a time of cleansing LIFETIMES of disempowerment! Of course it is horribly uncomfortable!
The need to survive and be accepted by a tribe were arising out of the collective and my own cellular memory to be faced and it was TOUGH! But, I made a decision. If I was going to live, then I was going to live and love to a whole new level. My life, and I bet yours too, is calling you to a whole new level of being with what arises in you.
So here is what I found is important to me:
I want to spend more time with my family. So I planned the trips.
I want a radio show again. So I am starting a Blog Talk radio show called Homo Spiritus starting next week.
I want to teach people how to connect and be present with each other, so we can love each other to wholeness, to a whole new level! I want my coaching school to cater to people who want to ground the nature of Spirit into their own, and their client's daily lived reality. So I am starting over this Spring with new classes.
I want to live in my home and enjoy my trees and rocks. So I am staying, even if it means I do one repair at a time instead of doing it all at once.
I want my health back. So I am slowly adding new routines to support my health.
But in my case, I am doing it all slowly. I am planning it one step at time and executing the plan in stages. If it takes me all year and into next, that is what it takes.
This is a whole new way for me to move in the world. I used to have to get everything decided and done at once. I had to push through and forge ahead even if I didn't have all the plans or resources put together yet. The more I had to face that life hadn't quite turned out the way I had hoped over the last few years, the harder I pushed past my limits, and suffered the consequences. But no more.
Now, my love will allow me to relax and trust Spirit to be here now, in the planning stage and in the smaller baby steps stages. My whole new way of loving is to relax, trust, love some more, take measured action, trust some more, and be open to new opportunities as they arise.
Comment below and tell me what is your calling you to a whole new level of? How are you wanting to love to a whole new level?
All my Love
My winter break is almost over. While I did work some through the last three weeks, most of my time has been invested in enjoying the company of my daughter, son-in-love, and two precious grandsons. There is nothing so precious and fascinating as watching children grow and develop their own sense of self. Each in their own way, exploring and experimenting with the world, testing the limits, and working really hard to find a way around them!
In their innocent play, they demonstrate the ability to put forth effort towards what is important to them. They experiment with different techniques to get what they want. They delight in the simple accomplishment of each step, and then happily move on to the next without holding on to what they just accomplished. At the end of the day they are tired, a good tired. They are tired from living fully and out loud, unashamed.
Not yet programmed to understand failure, they just move on to something else if what they want doesn't work out. Yes, maybe with a tear or two, but they do move on.
Being with them these last three weeks has refreshed my soul and brought my attention back to the simplicity of effort. How lovely to be remembered how simple effort is when we don't hold on to the outcome.
4 Simple Lessons from My Grandchildren - The Adult Version
1. Do what is important. In adult terms, know what is important, prioritize your list, schedule your tasks on your calendar. Do them.
2. Experiment with different solutions. Do what works, forget the rest.
3. Enjoy and appreciate each step. It helps you stay present in the moment and strengthens your central nervous system.
4. Effort is worth it in the end. Even if you have to try again, get frustrated, and have to move on to another task, the accomplishment is worth it.
Blessings for a wonderful week for simplicity!
All My Love,
Yes, we are in an intense and heavy time, all over the world right now. I know a handful of people who are not experiencing intense shifts in their lives right now, and even they are saddened and deeply concerned about the fires and destruction of life in Australia, and many other national and international concerns. It can all be very scary and concerning. Each of these world events and the intense experiences in our lives are always a call for love.
In my own life, I am facing a necessary home renovation I wasn't planning for, healing my body from a recent healing crisis, and dealing with the learning curves of running a new business in a new market. Last year was rough, my truths about myself and the world were tested. There was still a personal lesson to learn about how I prevent my own peace, and I am so grateful my spiritual helpers made sure I would not carry old baggage into the new era! But before the gratitude came, I had to be willing to face a couple of inner demons, be willing to focus on my goodness, and slow down to listen to my inner wisdom. I refused and rejected unkindness and manipulation. And most of all, learned how to trust my gut.
This is the attitude that will help us all now, look upon the current world condition, or the personal challenges and shifts as a call to love and a call to wise inspired action. A call to pay attention to what had been ignored. A call to being dedicated to finding your place in the world and your special function in it. A call to have unconditional positive regard for yourself and others. To be dedicated to staying aligned to truth, beauty, and wisdom to help you face and reconstruct what was destroyed so that the false beliefs and images of yourself and the world that contributed to the destruction, have no part in the new.
You are all so much stronger, intelligent, and beautiful than you can possibly know. Take time in quiet reflection and spiritual practice to access that beautiful you. No matter what you are facing in the reconstruction of your world, you do not do it alone. You have seen and unseen helpers with you at all times. You know who they are. They cannot do the work for you, but they are there to strengthen and support you while you do the heavy lifting of creating a new world.
Please take care of yourselves during these tumultuous times. Please take time out to enjoy the simple aspects of life, and the people who love you. By staying focused on doing what is right in front of you right now, with love and courage, everything else will fall into place in its own right timing and order.
All My Love,
All the names of fellow pilgrims have been changed to protect their identity.
May 10 Journal Entry
The Canadian ladies and I left Larrasaona early after having a light breakfast of café con leche and bread provided by the pension. It was pretty cold this morning, cold enough to see my breath. I wore my t-shirt, blue button up long sleeved hiking shirt, and my rain jacket, and was still cold for the first hour. When we stopped to take a break, I felt completely wet even though there was no rain. I had sweat so much, that the inside of my rain jacket had droplets of water on the inside when I took it off, and my clothes were soaked through with sweat. The afternoon weather was much nicer, and I eventually took off my jacket and shirt.
They walk much faster than I do and I lost them, but that was O.K. I like walking alone during the day, it´s too hard to talk anyway, and I like to be lost in my thoughts and prayers. I brought The Course in Miracles daily lessons on cards with me so I could continue my practice while I’m here. I am doing the lessons, and I’m doing the best I can to intentionally practice walking meditation, so being alone is a blessing, although I do enjoy company in the evening.
God, my feet and ankle hurt SO bad. I asked God to heal my blisters and trust it won’t be this bad the whole way. One of the blisters is under a toenail. I had no idea you could get a blister under a toenail. I have read so many different things about how to care for blisters, I am not sure which is the best way. Some say to not pierce and drain them, but to put gel pads and/or bandages over them. Some say to pierce it with a thread a needle, leaving the thread to help it drain, then put a bandage over it. I brought the needle, thread, and matches to sterilize the needle with me, and have been using the needle method which helps, but it still hurts like hell. I am going to stop at a pharmacy in Pamplona and pick up the gel pads and see if that helps any.
Today I saw fields of sheep, cows, and horses. They all had bells around their necks! On the way into Pamplona I crossed a bridge built in the 1400´s. The villages I walked through today have buildings still in use that were built in the 1600 and 1700’s, they still look beautiful. The apartment buildings have wooden or iron porches around the windows. In the country they have flowers in all the windows and in the city, you see laundry hanging outside the windows between buildings, along with the window boxes full of flowers.
The yellow arrows and seashell markers led me through people’s backyards, farms, and right between rows of grape vines in vineyards, and even through olive tree orchards. The Navarra region is famous for white asparagus. The rows of asparagus are covered with black plastic to keep them from the sun, which keeps them from turning green. You can see and feel the love and respect people have for the land and their work, the farms are all so neat and clean. I found out later today that some of the olive orchards are thousands of years old! Can you imagine that? The same trees have been producing olives for thousands of years?! The orchards I walked through were only hundreds of years old, but it still blows my mind.
I stopped several times to rest and tend my feet. I bought some bread and cheese for lunch from a small truck that passes through the villages. A little delivery truck stops in the town square and honks its horn and people come out and get in line. Oh.My.God. The bread and wine here… Have I mentioned them yet? I have drunk wine poured straight out of a barrel into a clean wine bottle. I honestly haven’t had anything so good. I found out red wine helps with inflammation; thank goodness they serve it with every meal, lunch and supper. And the bread, off the truck or in a bar, it is the best by far.
This is Basque country, so they speak mostly Basque, not Spanish. The signs are in Basque, sometimes Basque and Spanish. Ya, my English to Spanish book doesn’t cover Basque. I had to pee SO bad in one little village and there was NO ONE on the street. It wasn’t siesta, so I don’t know why no one was around, but they weren’t. I couldn’t find a public restroom or bar anywhere. Finally, I saw a man walking across the street. I flagged him down and used every word I knew in Spanish for bathroom, and he still didn’t know what I was saying. I finally held myself and bent over and said, “Tenga que orninar!” Which is, “I have to pee!” in Spanish again. The universal language of holding your crotch and bending over did it. He apologized profusely and led me to a public restroom that was not marked. God, I really almost peed my pants. I am going to have to start giving in and pee behind a tree somewhere.
I have been an emotional wreck all day. Old memories of physical, emotional, and sexual traumas from the past have been rising, and I couldn’t stop the tears. I cried as I walked almost all day, sometimes quietly as people passed, sometimes outright sobbing. I brought my rosary with me. Even thought I haven’t been in the Catholic church for almost 2 decades, Mary is still a part of me. I took out my rosary and began to pray. That didn’t help. I just wept most of the day.
Someone told me that there were 63,000 pilgrims on the Camino right now. I can walk for hours without seeing anyone, you would think I would see more people. But I am glad I don’t. This solitude is giving me an opportunity to let the tears flow. I don’t like it though. This is not why I came here. I came here to find freedom in myself, not to relive everything. I know Dr. Hawkins (Dr. David R. Hawkins, spiritual teacher) would tell me to welcome whatever comes up, so I am doing it. I knew this walk was going to be physically challenging, I did not know it was going to be so emotionally difficult.
I heard another voice in the early afternoon; it was the voice of the Camino itself. Early in this morning’s walk, I heard the land speak to me, it said, “Let it all go, let us have it. That’s what this land is for. Leave it all here with us.” I didn’t want to pollute all this beauty with my emotional mess, but the land said, “No, this is what this land is here for. It is transmuted here. Isn’t this one of the most beautiful places you’ve seen?” “Yes,” I said. “It is.” “Then let it all come to us.” I must have been communicating with the elementals there.
Today was physically excruciating as well. On the outskirts of Pamplona, I was shaking my fist at God, asking him why waking up had to be so damn hard. Screaming, crying, and shaking my fist at God…yep, how’s that for being spiritual? The same tiny voice that spoke to me in Madrid on my first night in Spain spoke to me again and said, “You need to lighten up!” “No shit!” I yelled back. “Would someone please tell me how?” The funny thing? No one paid any attention to me. It seems the locals are used to crying, hysterical pilgrims walking through their fields and cussing at God.
When I got to Pamplona, I was in the worst shape yet. My ankle was in terrible pain. But even the pain couldn’t stop me from appreciating where I was walking. Pamplona, built in 75 BC by Pompey as a Roman military base, has withstood the test of time, wars, and different governing powers.
Pamplona is astonishing to walk into. Even when you’re in pain. When you cross into the city you must cross over an original roman road and walk up to the city walls over a drawbridge. It was fascinating to realize that road was over two thousand years old. The Europeans I talk to are not in awe, they are used to very old buildings and roads, but wow, for me, it’s incredible to think about how many people have walked this path.
The ancient part of the city, known as the old quarters, is the craziest thing I’ve ever seen. It´s like someone took a bunch of buildings, shook them like dice and just scattered them and let them stay where they fell. I was so in awe of the age and beauty of the buildings; that I lost my arrows. I got lost and my map did not help at all. When I asked for directions, I got different answers from different people. By this time, I was limping so badly people really were looking at me like I was crazy. I wandered around and found a small bar. They refilled my water bottle for me and let me use the bathroom and gave me directions I couldn’t follow. This place is maze.
I wandered around some more, barely able to walk, and found another bar that was serving food. I was starving but couldn’t even eat my sandwich. It was delicious too. The sandwich had fish, eggs, lettuce, and tomatoes from heaven. So simple and so delicious. I was so tired I could only eat half of it, they didn’t have anything for me to take the rest of it with me, and I sure didn’t have anything to put it in. What a waste, my God, the food here is mostly amazing. The food at the first refugio for dinner was crazy greasy. Anyway, I digress...
I finally saw a group of pilgrims and realized I had met them on the road the day before. They helped me get to the alburgue (another name for refugio). We stopped at a store along the way and I got a banana and two oranges.
I asked God to get me a bottom bunk next to a bathroom so I wouldn’t have to walk far or climb up to a top bunk. Oh ya, God got me one alright, but I had to climb two flights of stairs to get to it. I'll be sure to be more specific in the future. Once I got up there, I realized there was a pay phone in the lobby. I could not stand the thought of going down there and having to walk up the stairs again. I miss the kids so much. I will try calling tomorrow.
I put my backpack on the bed, took off my boots, laid down on the bed, and propped up my feet without taking a shower and washing my clothes. 16 grueling km today. But I made it to Pamplona. Mission accomplished. While the terrain was not as punishing today, and I could breathe better, the pain is awful. I stayed in bed for quite a while until I started shivering. I noticed that I was drenched in sweat and freezing cold. My clothes were completely soaked with sweat. Knowing I had to get out those wet clothes, I forced myself to get up and wash my clothes in the bathroom sink. I was too tired to take a shower so just washed up with a washcloth. I went to the little kitchen area that had a tea pot and hot plate and made myself a cup of tea and ate my banana and one orange.
In the kitchen I meet a lovely young man, Ben. While he was making his soup on the hotplate, we visited about why we were on the Camino, a common question everyone asks everyone. He was born in Brazil but now lives in New Zealand. He’s 29 and believes he might be gay, but not sure. He is walking to find out one way or the other if he is. He looks a lot younger than 29, but who knows. Another man walked in the kitchen. He was over 6 feet tall, a very muscular, well built man and you could tell he had been crying. He didn't say much. He is an American soldier and is obviously in a lot of physical and emotional pain. OK, I get it...this is the place to let it out. Bless him...
Ben is mailing back a bunch of things from his backpack to lighten his load. Perfume being one of them! He refused to send back his deodorant though. Most people don’t carry it around. He got me thinking…what can I leave behind and quit carrying around as I laugh to myself. Ya, I should really lighten my load!
I had shampoo, conditioner, body soap, and something to wash my clothes with, face wash, moisturizer, hand sanitizer, deodorant, and sunscreen. Holy shit, what was I thinking, no wonder why the backpack weighed 25 lbs. Duh….I left everything there except my bar of body soap, sunscreen, and deodorant, I’m with Ben on that one. I will wash my clothes, face, and hair with the body soap and use the sunscreen for moisturizer. I also left one towel, one washcloth, hand sanitizer, (which I would later greatly regret) a set of tapes for my recorder, one Unity magazine of which I ripped out two articles to keep for inspiration, and my pajamas. I’ll sleep in my clean t-shirt and just get undressed in my sleeping bag.
The remaining contents of my backpack are: One t-shirt and one pair of pants, (not including the ones I am wearing) one long sleeved hiking shirt, my hat, one towel, one washcloth, rain poncho, rain jacket, sandals for the end of the day, one bra, my disposable cotton travel panties from Tilley. I don't care how much they weigh, which is not much, but I am NOT walking around with my panties pinned to my backpack to dry. Hell to the no, as they say in West Texas. My mini tape recorder and two tapes. Extra boot strings, two for my boots and two to use as clotheslines at the end of my bunk, clothes pins, safety pins, suction cups with hooks to hang things up in the showers, 2 bandannas, and one extra pair of socks, one comb, 1 roll of toilet paper, this notebook, prescription sunglasses, my first aid kit and Course of Miracles lesson cards, of which I have decided to leave behind at each refugio on my bunk for the next person when I am done with each card. My fanny pack has my money, US passport, pilgrim’s passport, phrase book, sunscreen, a pen, my digital camera, grandma's cotton handkerchief, and the rosary my daughter gave me. This should make walking much easier! My feet and ankle still hurt like hell, but I am not ready to go home yet.
OK, after walking 16 km to Pamplona, and God knows how long I wandered around before I found my fellow pilgrims, I think I have written quite enough.
Oh, I have earned the nickname, Texas. Apparently, even with George Bush as president, which I am getting a lot of ribbing about, they still love Texas over here. When people find out I am from the US they say, "Oh Bush!" with a frown, and they they ask me where I am from in the US, and when they hear Texas, they invariably throw their arms open and say, "Texas!" with a big smile and give me a hug. Sweet baby Jesus, I'm glad I'm from Texas.
I plan on walking to Estella tomorrow and stay there Sunday to take a day of rest.
I have overestimated just how much would fit into a weekly blog. This week's installment will only cover the first day of walking. May 9, 2006.
Journal Entry May 9, 2006
I left Roncesvalles early in the morning, about 6:30 a.m. I didn’t sleep all damn night. On top of still being scared silly, trying to sleep in that refugio was a waking nightmare. A cacophony of burping, farting, and snoring...My God. There were two men who snored in perfect rhythm, as one breathed in, the other breathed out. It was really ridiculously perfect timing. Like listening to an oompa loompa band. I don’t know how I will ever learn how to sleep with so many people in the same room. The energy of all these people in one room is hard enough to deal with, but the noise? Holy shit…
I had a mystical visitation from my Grandma Gen in the middle of the night. I first noticed a hand on my back, rubbing it in a soft circular motion. And then I realized it was her! She used to rub my back that way when I was a small child to help me go to sleep. I felt so grateful and comforted! But then she said, “Todo cara Sweetheart, todo cara!” What the hell??!! Grandma doesn’t speak Spanish! Why would she speak Spanish to me?! Good God, can nothing be clear for me in the spirit realm? Why does everything have to be such a mystery?
I am going to have to ask someone what that means.
Oh ya, as I got off my bunk this morning, I cut my big toe on the metal bed frame and sliced it good. I got the bleeding stopped, put some antibiotic cream and a bandage on it and hoped to hell I wouldn’t get tetanus. I hadn’t even started and hurt my foot. I am sure I attracted it because of my fear.
I walked for an hour and ate breakfast in Burgette. Burgette is only 3 km from Roncesvalles and it took an hour! The terrain is more difficult than I expected, but then again maybe I did expect this challenge, but being afraid of if and facing it, are two completely different things. I walked all day over the 2nd tallest mountain I will be crossing on this hike. It was physically excruciating and got my first blister before 10 a.m. I stopped at a stream to soak my feet and when I took my boot off my sock was soaked in blood, I had thought it was sweat. The cut on my toe had bled quite a bit but looked liked it had stopped. I rested, took care of my toe and blister and kept walking. The altitude is crazy high for someone who lives in the West Texas Flatlands. I was afraid breathing in high altitudes was going to be a problem, and I was right. I could hardly breathe all day. Going uphill I could not breathe, going downhill my toes hurt so bad I cried like a baby, and I walked up and down all day. At one point, I could only take 10 steps before I had to stop and catch my breath. The last of the day was just down, down,down and by the time I got to the refugio for the night, I had eight blisters!
A French man and I kept passing each other today. He would be resting and I would pass him. Then I would be resting and he would pass me. On and on we passed each other. Finally he said, “I think we are playing the tortoise and the hare. You are the tortoise and I am the hare. You will make it my dear, you will make it!” Yep, I am the tortoise and probably will be to the end. (I never did see him again.)
The discouragement today has been intense, even though I am sure my angels are with me, and I know for a fact Grandma is obviously with me, but still, the pain is crazy bad. I feel bad about being so discouraged on the first day, especially when everything is so beautiful. The mountains and the woods that I am walking through are so beautiful. I cried so much today. I want to do this so badly and I just don’t know that I’ll be able to finish. I want to fully enjoy this beauty but the pain is so fucking intense. I’ll just have to enjoy it the best I can while I am in pain and cry it out.
The woods here reminds me a little of the woods in Minnesota where I grew up. In some areas the woods have the same kind of trees as Minnesota. And the flowers, oh my they are so beautiful and they are everywhere, little woodland flowers I haven't seen since I was a child. The woods are full of color. The little white, red, pink, yellow, and blue flowers are everywhere.
Right before I got into the last town for the day, Zubiri, I was wishing I had a companion to walk with, and around the next corner were two french speaking ladies from Montreal, Canada. They were sitting on a bench that someone had made on the path. Someone had placed a lawn chair next to the bench and they invited me to sit down and share an orange with them.
They were so lighthearted and fun, and visiting with them picked up my spirits immensely. The aunt was 61, the niece 52, and their humor was just what I needed. They carried plastic wine glasses with them and had bought a bottle of wine in France and were still carrying it with them. We walked to Zubiri together and laughed at how much pain we were all in.
By the time we got to Zubiri my feet were in worse condition and my right ankle started hurting, badly. I was literally hobbling into Zubiri, and...there were no rooms left. Of course there were no rooms left on the first day of walking. At 5 pm none of us could walk the 5.5 km it would take to get to the next village, so we took a taxi to the next town. I was guilting myself about taking a taxi on the first day, but honest to God, I actually walked 22 km! Almost 17 miles!!!! WHAT?! No way! I had no idea I had walked that far over THOSE mountains. Ok, no more guilt. I amazed myself.
8 blisters, a cut on my foot and I walked 17 miles, in the Pyrenees mountains..Amazing!
We got a taxi in Zubiri and made it to Larrasano in time to get a room at the Pension El Peregrino. We shared a room at the pension, which is more like a motel than a refugio. There are 6 rooms and two shared bathrooms, the cost? 16.00 euros compared to the 5 to 10 Euros of a regular refugio, but the refugio was full and we were lucky to get that.
As I was taking care of my feet and talking to them about my concerns that I might not make it, the aunt said that after her first day, (they started in St. Jean Peid-de-Port, the highest mountain and the most demanding on the whole trip), she cried all night and said that was it, she was getting a bus the next morning and going home, but she got up the next morning and felt better and carried on and felt great. I felt so much better being around them, and it was good to know I wasn't the only cry baby!
I will get up tomorrow and see what it’s like starting out with 8 blisters and see what happens. If I make it to Pamplona, I will be happy.