To have a healthy identity means you understand WHAT you are more so than WHO you are. You are more than the protoplasm that makes up your physical bodies. You are more than the enculturated personas you think you are. Underneath the programming of your culture and experiences there is a quiet observer. This observer is connected to a broader experience than what your eyes see, ears hear, and mind and body experiences. Even beyond the observer there is more of what you are.
Each individual opens up to what they are as they are ready. This process can be likened to that of a flower unfolding from a bud; if you try to pry open the petals before its natural time you will destroy the beauty that could have fully blossomed. It will never blossom as fully and perfectly as it would have had it been left alone to its natural unfolding. One example of pushing for growth that could damage the flow of a harmonious experience of consciousness could be meditating for several hours a day without prior prepartion. In order to handle the new flow of information and transformational effects of extended meditation the mind must be prepared for the potential changes in awareness brought about by such a rigorous practice which would require years of preparation and tutelage.
Be gentle with yourself and others. This perfect life is in us all and in its own time will make itself known to each, when the conditions are right in a person's life. As we come to accept the natural unfolding process of an expanding awareness and growing emotional maturity, we surrender resistance to what is in the moment and create an opening for the miraculous and unexpected to happen.
Make the way as gentle as possible for yourself and others by being kind, understanding, present, and good listeners. Set healthy boundaries because sometimes it is the healthy boundaries of others the help ripen the conditions to someone's unfolding and healing. Having the courage to say, "I am here for you, I am not abandoning you and I need you! I need you to care for me and demonstrate that care by____________." helps people get in touch with what is really important and may give the extra push to be courageous enough to show up for someone else OR courageous enough to show up for themselves and say, "NO, I can't or don't want to do that for you and I am ready for a change." This type of dialogue helps create authentic and organic changes that will lead to growth over a period of time.
Focusing on our own creativity and our own minds, being responsible for our own inner space creates the room for others to grow around us. As we become responsible for being life to the fullest and create room for others to do the same we are cultivating minds that can carry the fullness of life and extend that life to others. Create Joy! BE LIFE AS FULLY AS YOU CAN!